Selasa, 17 Maret 2009

Habits that can threaten your marriage


1. Watch TV on dinner
Condition: We don't have permanent dinner table. Food table on the corner, sofa in the middle of the room. TV in front of the sofa. Usually I take my meal at the food table, facing the wall. Like a children being punished. Sometimes my husband accompany me. But most of the time, he eats seating at the sofa, and most of the time I don't have my dinner, or we take dinner separately (time and seating arrangements)
2. Long time no sex
I am enjoying sex, but not seeking it. So most of the time he seeks for me. And when I'm up to it, we enjoy it together :) By the way, do man always ask whether his mate pleased, or can he sense it?
3. Passing the day without any chat
Now this is almost impossible. As chatting is not always face to face communication, I always drop him e-mails, SMSes, and sometimes short phonecalls. But it is almost impossible to have proper chat at home since my boys are always distracting us ;p
4. Not care about each other
Now this one I'm not sure. Since I'm a very accomodative person, sometimes I feel that I can take him as he is. But sometimes I do shout my protest, that is when he critize me with something earlier, and turned out he is doing the same thing afterwards. Women forgives, but never forgets!
5. Never argue.
Arguing is never fun. So what I did is just share him my thoughts, and still let him decide. That way, whatever his decision is, he'll know the consequences, hehehe...
6. Go with friends more often than going with him
Now this one is almost impossible! Since his love language is being together, I haven't got the chance to actually enjoying my time with my friends. Of course he's allowing me to go see my friends, but it felt horrible not to bring him along. But since he's not a talkative person, it's not that easy to mingle him with my talkative friends and their partner. So... weekends is mostly family time, with very little exceptional going with friends.
7. Too many gross habits
For him, getting your nails done has to be done in private, and make sure the nail that fell off is cleanly put on the trash bin. And I have to finish my plate, because if I'm full, I am not allowed to give the un-eaten food to other people on the house. And sometimes I miss a spot on the bathroom. And some more gross habits, hehehe
Bottom line, I love my husband and hopes he loves me too until beyond the end of our lives :)